Act like men

by Gavin  

Act like men

 

These reflections flow from very real issues that have surfaced in our church life and local community over the last week.  My focus in this blog is most particularly men, but I am acutely aware of very similar issues in the lives of many of the ladies too!  As our elders considered and prayed for our people last Saturday morning, the phrase, “Men in crisis” surfaced as a kind of summary statement.  If we take just a few samples to get a feel, our guys are facing issues like:

 

  • Decision making about jobs and finances and investments… “What do I do? How do I know that this path is right?”
  • How to live and function in a country with a economic rating downgrades, and loss of pension security.
  • Bereavement, having lost close family members
  • Health scares… this could be a new diagnosis of a problem, or situations with no real clarity as to the diagnoses, which fuels greater anxiety in families.
  • Health issues in a spouse or close family member, with concern as to the issues and the way ahead.
  • Parenting challenges, where spouse and kids need to be helped through deeply troubling waters as a result of living in a sin-affected world.
  • Work issues where oppressive corporate systems, harsh bosses and insecurity reigns daily.
  • Sexual temptations through visuals that are encountered and seen
  • Daily pressure of school and varsity, where academic demands and extra-murals combine in a fever-pitched frenzy of activities.

 

“Help!  Help me!  Say something to give me direction and hope!”

 

That is the cry – spoken and unspoken!

 

One man used words like these on Sunday as we chatted after the service: “Struggle.  Press on.  Run the race.  Fight.”  How true!  To that we could add, “Wrestle” and “endure” and “put to death” and “strive” and “toil” and “work.”  Those are the New Testament verbs that describe the Christian life.  It is not without biblical support that Bunyan created allegorical pictures like, “the slough of despond,” “Giant Despair” and “Valley of Humiliation” as images of life.  Why?  Because it is hard and confusing and uncertain!

 

And our men – and in fact, our people, live with those realities every single day.

 

What do we say as leaders?  What counsel should be offered pastorally?  What comfort and direction can be given, in the midst of the pain and the brokenness and the despair?

 

A few trite, throw-away comments don’t really cut it, do they?  Skim through the Bible, and pick a promise, and quickly apply it like a Band-Aid to a gaping wound? 

 

The space in this short reflection does not allow time to develop all the answers and solutions.  But suffice to say that we have God’s Word as a sure and steady guide, a resource of His gracious revelation to us that contains all we need for life and godliness.  The value of the ‘means of grace’ God has provided through the Word, prayer and Christian fellowship cannot be calculated.

 

This is my comfort in my affliction, that your promise gives me life.” (Psalm 119:50, ESV)

 

But then I stumbled across this verse yesterday, in the process of a combined admin/pastoral task I was doing – matching appropriate Bible verses to the new members at Randburg Baptist Church as we prepare to welcome them into membership…

 

Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.” (1 Corinthians 16:13–14, ESV)

 

Now, I get it – this is NOT just written to men, because the Corinthians church was a multi-gendered and multi-ethnic mix – that’s true.  But that is still a powerful challenge to men:  “…act like men.”

 

That is actually a single word in the original Greek: andrizomai.  It is a power-packed word.  It is a word that seeks to convey the issues of courage and maturity and strength.  The clever dudes who know their Bibles better that I, show how this verb is a frequent command in the Septuagint (Greek translation of the Hebrew Old Testament).  It is a word that is used in contexts to encourage people to act with courage and strength in obedience to the Lord, and with confidence in his power.  For example, soldiers would be told to andrizomai.   We see it used in texts like these:

 

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.”” (Joshua 1:9, ESV)

 

And Joshua said to them, “Do not be afraid or dismayed; be strong and courageous. For thus the LORD will do to all your enemies against whom you fight.”” (Joshua 10:25, ESV);

 

“Then David said to Solomon his son, “Be strong and courageous and do it. Do not be afraid and do not be dismayed, for the LORD God, even my God, is with you. He will not leave you or forsake you, until all the work for the service of the house of the LORD is finished.” (1 Chronicles 28:20, ESV)

 

When David’s time to die drew near, he commanded Solomon his son, saying, “I am about to go the way of all the earth. Be strong, and show yourself a man, and keep the charge of the LORD your God, walking in his ways and keeping his statutes, his commandments, his rules, and his testimonies, as it is written in the Law of Moses, that you may prosper in all that you do and wherever you turn, that the LORD may establish his word that he spoke concerning me, saying, ‘If your sons pay close attention to their way, to walk before me in faithfulness with all their heart and with all their soul, you shall not lack a man on the throne of Israel.’” (1 Kings 2:1–4, ESV)

 

Wait for the LORD; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the LORD!” (Psalm 27:14, ESV)

 

Men, life is hard and complex and perplexing.  As men who trust in Christ we’re called to serve Him faithfully, and to lead our wives, children, fellow believers and ministry areas with courage and diligence in the midst of a fallen world, filled with much pain.  Let’s not deny those realities, and the struggles we have.

 

But, while accepting that much has NOT been said here, can I exhort us all to heed the challenge of God to “be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong?”  Don’t give up!  Don’t get frozen into paralysis!  Resist the temptation to throw your hands up in the air and abandon hope!  For the sake of your own faith, your wife and children, others who look to you for guidance and support, the sake of the church and the cause of the gospel, stand firm!  Act like men!  Be strong!

 

Let’s do so relying on the rich support and fellowship that He graciously gives in local church settings, flawed and imperfect as that may be.  Let’s do so trusting in His great and precious promises that His grace is sufficient, that His power is made perfect in our weakness, that He will never leave us or forsake us and that heaven is indeed our ultimate home.

 

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