Defiling our children

by Gavin  

Defiling our children


Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled…” (Hebrews 12:14–15, ESV)


Our attitudes affect the lives and conduct of others!


In the process of preparing today for the brand-new series on so-called “Acceptable Sins” commencing this Sunday (23rd October 2016) in our RBC adult modules, I stumbled across this staggering insight.  Wayne and Josh Mack co-authored a brilliant book, entitled, “Fight to the Death.”  This powerful excerpt is their application of the Hebrews text above… see what they say...


“This fact ought to put us on our knees before Almighty God, who visits the iniquities of the fathers upon the third and fourth generations (Ex 34:7).  Mothers should realize that their loose tongues – their constant complaining about the people of God or the church – may be the very instrument that the devil uses in turning their children away from Jesus Christ and the church.  Fathers should realize that when they constantly yield to evil desires, their children are observing them.  When children know that their fathers claim to be Christians, but they see them indulging in sin, they say, “If that is what a Christian is, I don’t want to be like my dad.”


To use a good Seffricanism… EISH! 


That places a massive burden on child-rearing, when viewed from God’s eyes.  How much defilement is promoted and modelled and encouraged, even unwittingly, in the home?  How much defilement against Christ is fuelled by those scathing critiques of the church and preacher and services after a service or a church meeting?  How much are our children hearing and seeing about our own sense of disgruntledness against Christ’s bride, and therefore growing up to have a low view of the church?  Are those critical parental discussions in the car about church life – with the kids silent in the back seat – helping or hindering them in their own faith development?  And then, for good measure, how many times have the “church” or leaders or elders or youth pastor being accused of failing to “produce” good little Christian youth, when the modelling and shaping at home has been the primary destroyer of any hint of desire for the Lord?


Dr Joel Beeke made the point when he was in SA in August, teaching on family and marriage, that the Christian home should be a “little church.”  In other words, home life becomes a mirror of church life – to a degree. Many children grow up with no experience or impression of Christian faith and worship as a daily reality. 


Hmmm… does that not make it incumbent upon us as parents to shape and model better, and to deal with our attitudes that might swing our kids against Christ and the church?


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